You have to be a girlfriend, to be someone’s ex-girlfriend.
I know this is stating the obvious, but it’s something to think about.
We all know that 9 times out of 10, relationships fail. It’s just one of those things that you have to accept. It’s an inevitability. Well, for me it is.
GIRLFRIEND ….. EX-GIRLFRIEND
It’s baffling to think that those two words which are so similar can evoke such wildly contrasting emotions. How something so harsh and aggressive as “ex” can preceed the term which is connotative with friendship, loyalty and love.
When in a relationship, you have what I like to call the “honeymoon period”. This is the time when you both are consumed with desire and lust and those butterflies never die. You cannot physically keep your hands off each other or that silly grin off your face at a recently recieved text.
Then after a month, you come back down to reality in the “waking up period”. The time when you realise that those little things that were once so cute are now incredibly annoying, and you can gradually feel those butterflies getting tired.
Then you break up.
I’ve come to realise that right now, I cannot stay in a relationship for longer than four months. It’s official. I have had a few offers, but I’ve turned them down. He doesn’t realise that it is for his own good. I will only hurt him. And it hurts me too, when I really like him, but for his sake I don’t let him get into a relationship with me. The sooner he realises this, the better. Then we can just be friends, because guys will come and go but the good friends are the ones that are there for life, and I would love those friends more than I would or could ever love any man.
With a friend, if you don’t see each other for two weeks or something, then it’s okay. But it’s panic stations when you haven’t seen your boyfriend for that long. In a relationship, everything is always so much more exaggerated. I am constantly having to think about that other person, it’s as if I now come as a pair.
My point being that if I’m in a relationship with someone I really like, at the end of my four months, we’ll both end up hurt and I probably won’t speak to that person again the way I did before. We’d both just end up on each others “GIRLFRIEND” or “BOYFRIEND” list with our names crossed out. But a friend? I’m on that list for life.
S.E.M
The best relationships start with great friendships, kids are in such a hurry to get in each others pants nowadays that alot of the romance is lost.
Don’t get me wrong, i’m down with the sexin’ but relationships are built on more than that. If you meet the right person and take the time to get to know all their ups and downs, one day you’ll realise you love those little imperfections. As annoying as they might be they make you smile.
And when your best friend and your boyfriend are one and the same, you’ll get your ‘honeymoon period’ forever.
How times change, once it was the ultimate show of affection to sleep with someone, now I think it can be even more flattering not to.
N.B. I also think the size of chocolate bars nowadays is horrific, and yet we wonder..